YOU CAN BE LOVED AND STILL NOT BE RESPECTED (PART 2) - Multicdb.com

 

YOU CAN BE LOVED AND STILL NOT BE RESPECTED (PART 2)

One who doesn't love him/herself can't love you and one who doesn't respect him/herself can't respect you. So it will be foolhardy of you to demand from someone what he/she can't give to him/herself. If you're getting love and respect where they ordinarily do not exist, then you're paying for it. Yes! People who don't love and or respect you might be around you still, because the money and or the sex is good. Take the money and the sex away, then there's nothing left, and the frustration thereof will kill the relationship.

Love and respect are freely given, and those who have it can also withhold it because of the way they are treated by the people they settled for.

Many people can do without love but can't do without respect. This is why people more easily gravitate towards the people who treat them nicely. Note however, that one who treats you nicely might not necessarily love you. Those who treat you nicely don't do it out of attraction to you, but out of the regard they have for themselves and humanity. They don't spoil you with gifts and still turn around to abuse you. They are decent towards you, and they are measured in their words. They may not have all the things they need, but even in their lack they will make you a priority. They will show you that you have a value and not a price. I hope you can tell the difference.

Seek for both, but if the realities of life bring you to a point where you must settle for only one of the two, settle for respect, it will keep you going. If you must have both, then walk away. Go find what you seek, somewhere else. Don't seek for love where it can't be found, and don't expect respect where it doesn't exist.

So listen and observe to make sure that the people you want in your life are capable of giving you the love and respect you seek. Beauty is deceptive and riches are illusive. Don't mistake attraction for love and don't mistake service for respect

To be continued... it's getting too long already. Don't miss the next post.

MASTERING THE SHADES OF BETRAYAL, Vol 2

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Story Credit: Ogochukwu Nweke